"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness." - Brené Brown
In my practice, it's evident that many of my male clients grapple with issues that often remain hidden in the shadows. We're all aware of it, but societal expectations and peer pressure tend to keep these concerns under wraps.
Personal Story: Allow me to introduce you to John, a client I had the privilege of meeting a few months ago. John is not just a name; he's a real person—a dedicated father of two. He faced the monumental challenge of providing for his family during the trying times of COVID-19. He carried this immense weight in silence, never fully sharing his concerns with his wife. As their circumstances grew increasingly challenging, it took a toll on his mental health, pushing him into a deep state of depression. And he confided in me that he had never considered depression as a real issue. One day, as he prepared to go to work, he found himself unable to step out of his car.
Men, for various reasons, have adopted a stoic approach to their emotions. They are not just faceless figures; they are real individuals. They bear the weight of their problems, whether it's challenges at home, financial stress, sadness, or worries, in silence. They quietly shoulder their struggles and responsibilities, just like any one of us would.
Furthermore, some men find it difficult to accept their circumstances and who they are as they age or deal with illness. These aren't abstract concepts; they are real struggles that linger because these men find it challenging to communicate openly and honestly. It results in a burden of unspoken emotions and internal turmoil, something many of us can relate to.
It's crucial to understand that when it comes to mental health, men and women share the same rights. We can all benefit from self-care practices, such as relaxation, meditation, quiet time, going for a walk, or even journaling.
Emotional Outlet: If journaling isn't your cup of tea, don't worry. Keep an emotional jar nearby and jot down a brief note each day about how you feel:
- "I feel good because..."
- "I feel stressed because..."
- "I want to scream because..."
Whether you speak your thoughts aloud or write them down, release those emotions from your chest.
This Movember, let's ignite a conversation about why addressing men's mental health is of utmost importance.
Embrace Your Authentic Self:
For too long, we've been conditioned to be tough and unyielding. These aren't just words; they reflect the journey of countless men who have found the courage to open up about their feelings. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a testament to your authenticity, something we all strive for.
It's About More Than Just You:
Your mental health isn't just about you; it affects the lives of those who care about you. They aren't abstract supporters; they are real people who want to be there for you. When you share your feelings, you enable them to be your support system. They want to be there for you, but you need to let them in.
Mental Health Matters:
Your mental well-being is as vital as your physical health. These aren't just words on a screen; they reflect a fundamental truth. If you'd seek help for a physical ailment, the same should apply to your mental health. Movember isn't merely about growing moustaches; it's about destigmatizing seeking support when you're not at your best, like a psychologist, kinesiologist, or any professional with whom you feel comfortable having heart-to-heart conversations when needed. They provide a safe space for you to express yourself freely, just like they've done for countless others.
You're Not Alone:
Remember, you're never in this alone. These are not just empty words; they are a lifeline. Many men face similar challenges, be it stress, anxiety, or depression. By opening up, you let others know they're not alone either. Connect with friends, family, or support groups to share your journey and seek strength in numbers.
Movember Stands by Your Side: Movember isn't just a quirky name; it's a movement dedicated to your well-being. They're committed to changing the game by funding research and creating a world where men can openly discuss their emotions. You can find more information on their mission here.
Remember, it's a testament to strength, not a sign of weakness. These words are not just letters on a screen; they reflect a truth we can all relate to. Together, we can create a world where men's mental health is a topic we tackle head-on, just like any other issue.